I hate this. I hate being a girl. Here is why.
In life, we are supposed to live up to societies standards. We are guided by the bold, the brave and the beautiful. Well, so we think. The oh-so bold, brave and beautiful just so happen to be the leading hand in our beauty anxiety that has been growing in recent years. The bold, brave and beautiful just so happen to be skinny, tall, big breasted, blonde hair blue eyed beauties. They are burning their image in our minds. Do you realize that? The actresses that we admire most today are just another façade in the eyes of society. Models are known to be stick thin right? No meat on their bones what so ever. Largely sunk in cheek bones, perfect tiny little booty, and almost unpracticed sultry eyes. The eyes that look you cold and dead in the eye, with an unyielding power to send anyone under their spell. We look up to them. We have been putting the wrong images in girls mind’s since as long as we can remember.
Back in the Victorian era, it was the norm and almost sexy for a women to be chubby. Women had to give off the appearance that they are pregnant, or so that they can hold a baby, which to men of this era, was showing they were the perfect match to carry their baby. Beside that, it also showed wealth and your economic status because being chubby meant you had food, which meant you had to have money for this food, thus showing your economic status. As the years went on, this look remained. Now look at us today… Thin Obsessed America. It sickening. Some may say it’s just how the dice rolls. Well, shit. We were screwed from the beginning, right? We don’t see men going through the same anxieties as women do. Now, I am NOT saying guys don’t have pressures at all, because they do. I am just saying, it’s harder to live in this world as a girl, a woman, a wife, a mother and a friend.
Girls have to look: Skinny, tall, blonde, tan, lean, have muscles, gorgeous eyes, have a tiny booty, thin hands, high cheek bones, big boobs, soft skin, no pours, no blemishes, pearly white teeth that are all aligned, nails pained at all times, perfect clothes, no bad body fat, small thighs, heel wearing women, lipstick on at all times, sexy, pretty, hot, attractive, long hair, soft hair, curly hair, straight hair, perfectly groomed, and the list still goes on.
Girls have to play many roles too, like: The mother, the friend, the girlfriend, the business woman, lady on the streets, freak in the sheets, the model, the cook, the maid, the housewife, the student, the funny one, the serious one, the homemaker, the decorator, the soft spoken one, the loud one, the one who will fight for the ones she loves, the one who won’t back down, the tough-guy, the softy, the dainty woman. Basically, wonder woman.
With all of these high expectations, it is a wonder how most of us make it through life. These expectations have been set on fire and steroids. Unfortunately, there are some girls who fall by the wayside. These high expectations get to our minds and we loose sight of who we are. A literal example is make-up. A tool that was designed to hide ourselves. Our daily mask, right? Girls everyday are abusing make-up to hide how they really look because we have put these models in their face. Pictures of airbrushed girls are all over the internet. The guys that girls like are constantly fantasizing about and talking about these perfectly flawless women excessively. Guys, these women are AIRBRUSHED. Smoothed out, thinned out, stretched out, blotted out with Photoshop and MAKE-UP. And to think, there guys that are constantly putting girls down for even wearing the slightest bit of make-up or maybe too much make-up. Guys, ever thought that the reason why a girl wears a lot of make-up is because jerks like you subliminally call them ugly? Guys do this constantly. They send out messages to their friends unknowingly on facebook, twitter, instagram, you name it, of their #wcw (women crush Wednesday). Girls look at these pictures and think, “I’m supposed to look like that.” and you know what???? THEY GO OUT AND DO THAT. Sometimes, to the extreme. Make-up, plastic surgery, botox, fillers, tummy tucks, chin implants, cheek implants, everything under the sun. And then you guys still go and criticize them? You damn fools.
Now I am not saying guys are the problem. But they sure do help with the anxiety. It is SICK to think guys criticize women for how they look with make-up, yet they are idolizing women that are airbrushed. Do you guys even know what you are saying? What you are doing? Better yet, what you are causing? I bet you don’t, and i hope this a quick slap in the face. Wake up.
Girls have it hard. We wear make-up and get criticized. We aren’t strong enough, or soft enough. We aren’t skinny enough, tall enough, pretty enough. It is sad to think girls are suffering from body image and self confidence. We all are unique in our own way. We are all beautiful in our own way too. I say, let’s throw away images of models, celebrities, that are putting bad images in our minds. Let us all burn the images! Not forget these models and actresses, but not let them define who we are. Yay, good for them, they are skinny and tall…. whatever! They don’t know what good pizza tastes like, or what second day hair feels like. Sucks for them right??? We do! We love pizza, fries, second day hair, no make-up days, messy-hair days! Don’t let societies messed up views on beauty define you. How about you define beauty yourself.
xoxo,
your friend
Kendra
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